IGBOZURUOKE MEDIA

The earlier women understand that, since man is the centre of their world, his protection should be a matter of necessity. At this time of uncertainty in Nigeria, engaging in matters that relate to the shameless nature and self-overrating life of Nigerian thespians and their counterparts may seem misplaced, however, human-interest matters should be the concern of everyone because, humans are the centerpiece of every community. Similarly, “if elders decide to look away from children because of theirs tantrums, nobody will notice when tears turned to blood,” as the saying goes, in Igbo land.  

From happenings in every community, it appears the regrets God expressed after creating humans must be what he noticed about the complexities of woman. Here is a creature that is never satisfied with herself, let alone, with other things. If a woman has a-rounded hip, she would covet a figure-8, if she is endowed with ample and pointed breasts, she will lust for a large and rotund type. If she is the cynosures of all eyes on an occasion, she would crave invincibility.

Thus, in this uneasy existence where man and woman are forced to co-exist, grief has been the reward for man. The situation has become so toxic that man appears to be gasping for any form of fresh air. Unfortunately, due to his stupidity and lusts etc., 98% of these troubles are self-inflicted wounds due to genetic and adopted transgressions. Since discussions on this line are not the object of this article, let us focus on the issue at hand.

One iconic Igbo maxim is that Onweghi nwanyi gbaka (which means no woman comes with empty hands.) In one instance, this cliché denotes the evil genius of woman. In a second and deeper assessment, it connotes the phenomenon of a woman, endowed with facilities that have become irresistible to man, renders him ineffectual and subjugates him to the wills and caprices of the so-called weaker sex.  Thus, this condition has become a phenomenon that has made man subservient to women he is in relationship with and rendered him impotent on cases he should ordinarily handle with the manliness they deserve.

 For this reason, a Tonto Dike, who became a wife by mutual consent and has been blessed with a promising son, would when it suits her, turn round and begin to rake all over the place shamelessly, vilify her husband in despicable manners and disparage her husband’s family without good reasons. Then when it suits her, she would come back on the social media and announce to the public, without any modicum of contrition or apology to her victims that she has reconciled with her husband and they have reunited as husband and wife. While her husband and his family may have forgiven or expected to forgive her, has anyone deemed it necessary to imagine the collateral damage of her unwarranted rage? Well, since I am not privy to how the reconciliation and reunion came about, let me assume that her husband, who may have accepted her back, did so in good faith and is mindful of the dangers associated with the habits of an atrocious wife.

For example, in Igbo cosmology, she has committed what is close to Aru (Taboo), when she maliciously claimed that no bride price was paid on her. It was her parents, who do not seem to support her madness that debunked this claimed and asked her husband to come and collect the bride price. If Mr. Churchill Kunle, Tonto Dike’s vilified husband were to be an Igbo, no amount of stunt or subterranean efforts would have made them accept her again, once the pride price had been returned. 

In another corner, her fellow Igbo cousin, Regina Nwoko, or has she reverted to Regina Daniel, is busy constructing her own scripts and tantrums, in a marriage she equally consented to and has been blessed with two promising sons. In her own case, she seems to have forgotten that she is in a matrimony that demands certain temperament, rectitude and etiquette. Goaded by lousy siblings, friends and netizens who see the social media as a means to demonstrate their depraved tendencies, she is about to make a bigger mistake once she abandon her marriage. 

The issue here is that the lack of decorum by most Nigerian single and married women who are in the entertainment industry is now a menace that should no longer be tolerated by men. If men had not abandoned their roles as heads and authorities in each household for lack of character and amorous interests, these cases would not have become very dangerous.

One thing men should be aware of on this matter is that—head or tail—they lose. Once God invested in one the authority and mandate to carry out engagements, he should comply, not only for his sake but for the sake of humanity. Women are created with complex and complexities; whatever, wrong a woman commits is always seen from sensual lens and easily forgiven. It is left for man to do the needful so that the so-call weaker sexes do not bring the roof crashing on all of us

Boniface Alanwoko